Monday, January 21, 2008

Frequently Asked Questions, Set 2


Ryder, Kassidy, Kaydence, Kyndall and Rustin

Below are answers to all the questions that were asked in the comments of my last blog.


Q: Does having all girls K and all boys R make your mommy brain go crazy?’

A: Not yet. Ask me again when they are all two, getting into everything, and I am constantly using their names----I might change my mind then!


Q: How does your stomach recover from a pregnancy like that? Those of us with singletons complain of the pizzadough tummy....how do you shrink your skin back?

A: You don’t!!! My doctor says the only way it will fully recover is with a tummy tuck. I definitely have the “pizza dough” tummy. My scar from the c-section is down on the bottom and everything kind of lops over the top of that. (Sorry if that was more detail than you wanted!)


Q: Did you attempt nursing or pumping or anything like that? What was that like?

A: Yes, I attempted to pump after the babies were born but my milk never really came in. At best I was getting about 2 oz out at a time. For the first month, the babies were getting about one bottle a day of my breast milk. By about 2 months, my supply had dwindled so that I was only get out 20 mls (that’s about 2/3 ounce) out at a time. At that point, I finally had to “throw in the towel” and give up. I felt bad about it at first because I really wanted to give my babies the advantages of breast milk, but I eventually came to terms with the fact that my body couldn’t produce milk and adequately take care of five babies!


Q: Do you plan on having anymore children?

A: No! We are happy with what we have!


Q: What's a typical day like in your house?

A: The answer to this question would be a post all by itself! I will answer in an upcoming post.


Q: Do you ever get a chance to have time to yourself? What do you enjoy doing? Shopping, reading?

A: Thanks to some really great friends and volunteers, I do get to get out every once in a while and do things! I love to shop, read, go to movies, go out to eat, etc. In my previous life I was a recipe junkie, and I liked to try new recipes. My favorite person to shop with is my mom, my favorite books lately are the Twilight series (that is about all I have had time to read since I had the babies), my favorite movie that I have seen recently is “Enchanted”, my favorite movies of all time are “Pride and Prejudice” (the long A&E version) and “While You Were Sleeping”, and my favorite place to eat is The Cheesecake Factory.


Q: I'm wondering if there are companies who donate stuff to you?

A: There are a few companies who have programs for multiples. If you send in the babies’ birth certificates, they will send you a few coupons. Babies R Us will give a 10 percent discount for buying two or more of the same item at the same time (only for big things like cribs, strollers, high chairs, etc.). Most of our donations have come from people, not from companies. Enfamil is the exception—they have a “helping hands for special kids” program and they are sending us formula for the first year. This is a HUGE help to us---it saves us about $800 per month since the babies are on a preemie formula that is more expensive and doesn’t have generics.


Q: What comes to mind when you think about them all going to college?

A: Since I am planning on them all being child geniuses and getting full-ride scholarships, I am not too worried about it. Just kidding. The financial aspect of having seven kids, five at the same time, is a little daunting, but we will just do the best that we can. And we will hopefully instill a good work ethic in our kids so that they will be able to work and help pay for their education!


Q: How do you have enough time for each and every one of them individually?

A: I try to make sure that I feed each of the babies at least once a day, so I can have some one-on-one cuddle time with each of them. I also get to bath each of individually (we do baths every three days). Right now my whole day is pretty much devoted to the babies, so I don’t think it is so hard to give each one some individual attention. As they get older, I think it will become more difficult. I have a harder time making sure that I give my older kids the attention they need.


Q: I have twins, and find it hard to bond with them as individuals. Have you felt a bond yet? Or are you still in "survival" mode?

A: I feel like I have bonded with each of the babies. Their personalities are all so distinct and different, that there is something different to love about each of them.


Q: I am currently 31 weeks pregnant with triplets and wondering what your doctors did to make you feel comfortable other than the hydrotherapy, mine has proscribed a massage therapist?

A: Wow—a massage therapist would have been nice! Other than they hydrotherapy in the hospital (and the swimming pool at home) there wasn’t a lot more they could do. I used lots of pillows to sleep with and they put these funny balloon things on my legs to help with the swelling. My aunt gave me a foot massage almost every day, which was wonderful.


Q: I know with three my cravings have gone out of control, was wondering what some of your favs. were & if you were able to get them in the hospital.

A: It was really ironic that while I was pregnant and on a 5000 calorie/day diet where I could eat anything, that I really didn’t crave or want a lot of my usual favorite indulgences (most of them involving chocolate). In the beginning of the pregnancy, I craved Jack-in-the-Box milkshakes, but those got old pretty quick. By the end of the pregnancy, the only thing I really craved is potatoes---baked potatoes mostly, but also mashed. I ordered a baked potato nearly every day with my meals in the hospital.



My cousin, Heather, came for six days to help with the babies. We tried to take advantage of the great weather by going on a walk.


Solid foods here we come....
These high chairs were generously given to us by my mom's Naperville, IL friends at a "Quint Mimi" shower. Don't they look great? They fit perfectly along the back wall of the kitchen---that is until the food fights begin. So far we haven't utilized the chairs too much for feeding, but that will soon change.


Kaiya's preschool gave a little concert this week. She was expecially excited about this number, where they got to wear sunglasses.



During the middle of the performance, Riley lost his first tooth! What timing!






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Sunday, January 6, 2008

Frequently Asked Questions, Set 1

I get asked a lot of questions, so I thought I would dedicate this post to answering some of the most common ones. Feel free to make a comment and ask any other questions, and I will answer them in another post.

Q: How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant with quintuplets?

A: Totally shocked and very scared. After the initial shock wore off, I kind of went into denial. The doctor had said that it was very common for one or more of the fetuses to spontaneously abort during the early weeks of the pregnancy, and I kept thinking that I would go back for another ultrasound and there would no longer be five.


Q: What did it feel like to have five babies moving around during the pregnancy?

A: It was very cool to feel the different babies moving. I expected it to feel like a major cat-fight was going on in there all the time, but it really didn’t. I think that space was so limited and I was stretched so tight, that there wasn’t a lot of room for movement. I could feel the babies move individually, though. The most interesting feeling was when a couple of them would get hiccups at the same time.

Q: How much weight did you gain during the pregnancy?

A: I gained a total of 69 lbs. The doctors wanted me to aim for 75-100 lbs, so I got pretty close. My total girth was 54 inches. I am only 5 feet 2 inches tall (62 inches), so I was almost as big around as I am tall.

Q: Do the babies have middle names?

A: The boys have middle names and the girls do not. The boys are Ryder Nelson (Nelson is Jayson’s mom’s maiden name) and Rustin Curtis (Curtis is my maiden name). Wilkinson is such a long last name that we figured the girls didn’t need middle names. I don’t have a middle name (although I use my maiden name as a middle name now) and my older daughter, Kaiya, doesn’t have a middle name either.

Q: Are they all identical?

A: The fact that there are both boys and girls makes it impossible for all the babies to be identical. There are no sets of identicals in my bunch---all of them look pretty different from each other.

Q: How many babies were you trying for?

A: ONE!!! All we wanted was one healthy baby! Even using fertility drugs, the odds were high (80%) that I would have a singleton. No one in their right mind would “try” to have five! It is such a huge risk to both the mother and the babies. We were extremely blessed to have such a favorable outcome. I definitely consider it a miracle!

Q: How are your older kids, Riley and Kaiya, handling things?

A: Riley and Kaiya have been champs through the whole thing. They have been great helpers and rarely get jealous of the attention that the babies receive. They have loved seeing themselves on TV every once in a while. Occasionally they will act out, but no more than if we had had one baby instead of five.

Q: How are YOU doing?

A: Great! After the initial recovery period where I had some complications (kidneys quit working, LOTS of swelling, etc.) I have been doing really well. Thanks to the wonderful “night nanny” volunteers, most nights I get some decent sleep, which really makes all the difference.


Q: How long do you think you will need help for?

A: Good question---maybe till the babies turn 18 and go off to college??? Just kidding. I really don’t know----things have gotten a little easier now that the babies are older, can hold their heads up and can be somewhat entertained by toys. But solid foods and crawling are just around the corner and that could definitely make things harder!

Q: How do you tell the babies apart?

A: They are all different. They all look different from each other and they have their own personalities. Ryder is the most animated. He has a huge smile. He demands the most attention and would love to be held 24 hours a day. Rustin is the most mellow of the bunch. He is very easy going and can seem quite serious, but he has a great giggle. Kyndall is the smallest of the bunch and is just a very sweet little thing. She and Rustin are my “easiest” babies. She is pretty easy to please and hardly ever gets really mad. Kaydence is full of fun. She loves to smile and play. She can also be very demanding at times. Kassidy is the most interactive with the other babies so far. She occasionally wakes up from naps laughing and almost always gives a huge smile when you go in to pick her up.
My "little" sister, Tiare, who was here visiting this week.

My brother, Shane, who was also visiting. If you can't tell, one of my favorite things to do with visitors is make them take a picture holding all the babies!!


Tummy Time! Kyndall, Ryder and Kassidy


Rustin, Ryder, Kassidy, Kaydence, and Kyndall with Big sister Kaiya





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Sunday, December 23, 2007

Virtual Christmas Card


It's Christmastime---that time of year when we attempt to be clever and create cards to send to friends and family with photos and updates on our year. This year, we have been blessed to have the support of many people, many of which we will never meet. Since there is no way to reach all of you via the regular postal mail, I am instead posting a "virtual Christmas Card". Thank you for all your prayers, love and support and have a Merry Christmas!!!




Twas 2007 in the Wilkinson home,
A crazier year we have never known.


We started the year by selling our house,
Then went off to Disney to see Mickey Mouse.


On Jan 23rd life turned upside down,
We went to the doctor, couldn't believe what he found.


"You're expecting!" he said, "...and it's going to be QUINTS!"
And our lives have not been quite the same since.


We searched for a doctor to find the best,
Which led us to Phoenix and four months of bedrest.


We stayed near in Gilbert with Rachelle's Aunt Jeanie,
And good Uncle Rick, (who isn't a meanie.)


Meanwhile in Austin our new house was done!
But without all the help, it would not have been fun.


They cleaned and they painted, they worked without rest!
Yes, our family and friends are really the best.


Five babies were born at the end of July
At 34 weeks, their weights were quite high.


Kassidy, Kaydence and Rustin were first,
Then Kyndall and Ryder had their birth.


We moved back to Austin on September one
The life we call "normal" is really quite fun!


They're all doing well and growing up fast.
It's hard to believe how much time has passed.


Riley and Kaiya have been champs all through.
They both love to help, and know just what to do.


Riley's in second grade and at a new school,
He really likes reading and thinks LEGOs are cool.


He made a short "film" for the Reflections Contest,
The judges agreed that his was the best!


Four-year-old Kaiya loves dancing and dolls,
Dressing up pretty, and drawing on walls.


This year we'll remember—for we've really been blessed.
Thanks to friends and family, it's been a success!


Love,

The Wilkinsons



Kassidy

Kaydence


Rustin


Kyndall


Ryder


Kaiya and Riley











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Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Now Shipping!

The 2008 Wilkinson Quints Calendar is now available and orders are being shipped as they are received! To order the calendar, visit:

www.wilkinsonquints.org/calendar.html

The website has also been updated to show thumbnails of each months picture. I know I am just a little biased, but I think the calendar is totally adorable. Have you been wondering what to get for that person that has everything? This calendar would make a great Christmas gift! OK--that is the end of my calendar plug for this week.


In other news.....

This week we had a visit from Dr. Candice Park, the resident who delivered the babies. (Dr. Elliott was my primary care doctor, but I was at a teaching hospital and the residents are the ones who do the actual deliveries). She had a week of vacation and chose to spend half of it with us! We had such a great time visiting with her. I am not sure how much of a vacation it was for her, since she spent her whole time holding babies, playing with Riley and Kaiya, and making all kinds of wonderful treats.


Candice with Ryder, Kaydence, Kyndall, Rustin and Kassidy


While Candice was here, we took advantage of the extra help and pulled out all of our Christmas decorations. I just love the way the house feels when all the Christmas stuff is up! Of course putting up Christmas decorations, like everything else, takes longer when you have five babies. We were still in the process of putting up decorations on Monday, when Jayson's Aunt Victoria arrived, so she helped us finish the job.

Today was the babies four-month doctor visit. The doctors are amazed at how well the babies are doing. Developmentally the babies are exactly where they are supposed to be for their age. Their height and weight still have a bit of catching up to do, however. Here are the most recent measurements:

Kassidy: 11 lb 13 oz, 23 inches tall
Kaydence: 10 lb 8 oz, 22.25 inches tall
Rustin: 12 lb 6.5 oz, 23 inches tall
Kyndall: 8 lb 15 oz, 21.75 inches tall
Ryder: 12 lb 1 oz, 23.25 inches tall

The worst part of the doctor visit was all the shots!! Twenty-five, to be exact. Each baby had four standard immunizations and the synergis shot for RSV. Needless to say, the babies were not very happy about being poked so many times. The upside to the shots and doctor visit, however, is that after we got home and gave everyone some Tylenol, the babies took a great nap!
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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

2008 Wilkinson Quints Calendar!




We are excited to announce a Wilkinson Quints Calendar for 2008. The calendar features 12 beautiful photographs of the Wilkinson quintuplets taken by some very talented photographers. The cost of the calendar is $20.00 plus $2.00 shipping and handling. The calendars will begin shipping the first week of December.


To order, visit http://www.wilkinsonquints.org/calendar.html



We have had a lot of fun putting this calendar together! In addition to ourselves, some great photographers have donated their time and talent to this project. These include Kristen Duke, Lanae Monson, and Rachael Olson. To see more of their work, check out their websites:







Here is a sneak peak at some of the pictures included in the calendar:








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Monday, November 26, 2007

Blessing Day

This week was full of "firsts" for the quints. First Thanksgiving, first restaurant outing, first visit from Uncle Colby and Uncle Ryan (my brothers), first giggles, and first time to church. Because of the threat of RSV and other illnesses, we had not taken the babies to church before. This Sunday, however, there was a special event in the lives of the quints that took place at church.

In our church, new babies are given a blessing within a few months of their birth. This is a very special occasion. The babies are typically dressed in white and the blessing is often given by the father. To find out more about baby blessings, visit:



http://www.lightplanet.com/mormons/priesthood/ordinances/blessing_children.html

This past Sunday was the day that we had our babies blessed. The girls were dressed in beautiful white gowns that were made by Jayson's mother, Sylvia, and his aunt, Linda. The boys looked equally handsome in their little white outfits. Several family members from out of town came for the babies blessings. My parents and Jayson's parents were here to witness the blessings, as well as my Aunt Jeanie, Uncle Rick and cousins Ashlyn and BrieAnne (whom I lived with while I was in Arizona). My sister-in-law, Tobi also drove in from Killeen to be there. In addition to family and ward members, some of our other friends: Cassaundra, Ellis, Troy, and Kelly, were also present. It was so wonderful to have so many family members there for this occasion!

The blessings were given by Jayson. There was such a sweet feeling that was present during the blessings. After the blessings, my mom, cousin Ashlyn and Riley and Kaiya sang a song written by my Aunt Jeanie. The song was so beautiful and it was overwhelming to hear Riley and Kaiya singing the chorus. When I looked around after the song, I noticed that I was not the only teary-eyed one in the congregation. All in all, it was a wonderful day.




Friends and family who came to the blessings.




Kassidy




Kaydence




Rustin


Kyndall



Ryder





The quint's first restaurant outing to Rudy's BBQ (for more details, see Jayson's Blog)













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Monday, November 12, 2007

Why I Have Five Babies

I think I have finally figured out why God sent ME five babies. I have never considered myself great “mom” material. I am not the favorite mom on the block. In fact, I am probably the least favorite mom---At my house, I don’t allow finger painting (too messy), climbing on furniture and counters (too dangerous), or running around barefoot outside (messy and dangerous). Video games and TV watching are off limits until rooms are cleaned and beds made. At my house, kids are required to eat a fruit or vegetable before they can have something they really want (pretzels, popcorn, goldfish, etc) for snack. No one is allowed to have dessert without at least trying everything I serve for dinner and chewing gum (before you are sixteen) is a punishable offense. When it took us so long to get pregnant the third time, I actually thought it could be God’s way of telling me that my talents lay elsewhere, and that I was supposed to do something else instead of have a big family.

Don’t get me wrong---I am not a bad mom and I love my children, I am just better at analyzing data than I am at dreaming up kid’s craft projects or playing with cars. When I found out I was pregnant with quints, I thought for sure God had made a mistake. The five babies were supposed to go to someone who majored in Family Science (I have a Masters Degree in Statistics) and who always wanted to run a daycare out of their home.

Now that the babies are here, I realize that God did know what he was doing after all. He knew I was a “numbers” person and was just trying to give me a bigger sample size! There is an amazing amount of data involved when you have quints. We keep track of what time they eat, how much they eat, when they take baths, what medications they take, how much they weigh, how often they puke and what type of messy diaper they have. My house is the ultimate test site for baby stuff. I have tried several baby products many times on multiple babies. With all this data, I could do some great analysis and make some terrific looking graphs….If only I had the time!

A Day with the Quints
"By the Numbers"

3 baby girls
2 baby boys
30-35 bottles
120-150 ounces of formula
40-50 dirty diapers
1-2 loads of baby laundry
5 baths
10 ears to wash behind
2 swings
3 bouncers
2 changing tables
3 rocking chairs
5 cribs
40 burp cloths
10 blankets
10-15 outfits
15 pacifiers
5-10 daytime volunteers
2 night nanny volunteers
50 fingers
50 toes
5 beautiful smiles


Kassidy

Kaydence


Rustin


Kyndall

Ryder


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